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If YOU, my friend, were ever told… Not to ask f

If YOU, my friend, were ever told…

Not to ask for so much.

That you were a bad girl.

Too sensitive.  Too big for your britches.  That you were a mistake.

If you had no one to talk to about your fears and your losses. If you were made to feel ashamed for feeling big things. If you were frightened by the people you were supposed to trust.

If it feels ok. Go back to that time and insert me there. And I will cradle you. I will stroke your hair. I will hold you as long as you need me to.

I will complement you on your courage and resourcefulness.

I will tell you…

I am so grateful for your existence.

I’m so happy you were born.

I will thank you for being you.

I will learn from you and be humbled by your beauty.

You are so infinitely loved, sweet child.

If we're going to talk about #metoo and consent,

If we're going to talk about #metoo and consent, we've got to talk about the word NO.

I've personally emailed several people over the past two weeks asking them for support in one way or the other.

Half of the people I emailed did not respond.

Hey, I miss emails. I get busy. I don't owe anyone an immediate response AND... If I'm honest, sometimes I don't want to respond to people because I hate to tell them no.

I don't want to piss anyone off or hurt someone's feelings or let anyone down.

And yet, I force myself to do it.
Over the past 24 hours, I received three requests from people asking me for my time. One to talk about a certification program, one to play tennis, and the other to meet for breakfast.

Each time I was tempted to not respond or send back some lame excuse (aka LIE) about why wouldn't be able to do it -- because I was afraid to tell them NO.

It wasn't comfortable but... I said no.

I told the truth.

I gave them permission to have whatever emotional reaction they were going to have about my response.

Women, we have got to get better at saying the word NO. It starts with everyday conversations and it ends in the bedroom.

Ghosting (aka not responding) or lying to avoid the discomfort of setting a boundary is disempowering.

No means no.

Setting boundaries is your right.

We can do better.

And if I send you an email asking for your support, feel free to tell me no. I can handle it. I promise.
And I will respect you all the more because of it. 😉

I’ll just drop this right here. Thank you @sally

I’ll just drop this right here. Thank you @sallyhope!
#shadowwork #lifecoaching #debbieford #theshadowandthelight #youarethelight #bethelight #lifecoachforwomen

Today was a very hard, humbling, blow to the ego,

Today was a very hard, humbling, blow to the ego, I just want to fucking give up kind of day.
So I’m just gonna be over here feeling my feelings, playing tennis and reading this love note from my daughter over and over and over again. “My amazing mom. My mom is fun, puts my hair up in a bun aka she’s dose it great! My mom is awesome way more than a possum. My mom is great. She deserves a cape. My mom is nice. She makes my favorite rice. My moms a hero. She’s my very own super hero! My mom is funny way more than a cute bunny. I could say way more but look at this!

My mom is Awesome, amazing, butiful, brave, bold, athietick, cool, super, funny, friendly, nice, fun, suporting, great, generows, loving, smart, buckit filler, powerful, thoughtful, polite, good, succecful. I could say way more but I want to say this! I love you!” Joy Albano, age 9

Stealing this #truthnughet from @yourkickasslife.

Stealing this #truthnughet from @yourkickasslife. It has been a week and #mercuryretrograde just frickin started. But I did the thing and it was hard and I freaked out but now I am even more unstoppable because of what doing the hard thing showed me I am capable of.

This photo was taken many years ago. You wouldn't

This photo was taken many years ago. You wouldn't know it but underneath that tube dress was a woman who was truly miserable.

Back before I was the take no shit, resilient as hell, badass I am now, I used to spend a lot of time worrying about how I looked to other people. I wanted to seem important, something really special. So I got a lot of degrees, learned how to speak a foreign language, went to work for a think tank.

Yeah, I had the guy, the house, the car, the hair…. But I still didn’t feel
Important or special.

Can you relate?

There’s so much pressure to maintain a shiny and sparkly exterior so people will see us as worthy. Worthy of love, worthy of time, worthy of clients.

And now that we have the internet, it’s even easier.

A lot of biz owners feel the pressure to appear perfect. The photography and branding is so on point you’d think clients were lining up to throw cash at them.

It’s easy to compare your insides to all these shiny and sparkly exteriors and come up thinking “why do I even bother?” Well don’t do it. Because you really don’t know what’s going on underneath the glitter.

Remember this: the road to success is paved with failure after failure after Royal Epic Failure.

And I’m not going to cover that shit up with glossy photos.

My launch has been a Royal Epic Failure. Back in 2014, people really were lining up to take "Being You Uncensored." In 2020? Crickets.

I believe in the value of "Being You Uncensored: How to Release the Need to Please, Be Happy and Succeed YOUR Way." It's because of this course that I am *this* transparent, *this* unstoppable, *this* resilient. I know I’m here to make a difference in my own way and I will not hide behind a façade of perfection.

So here’s the dealio…

If you…
…Worry (obsess) about what people think,
…Compare yourself to other people,
…Let criticism derail you,
…Perseverate about how you could have done it or said it differently,
… Hide behind busy work because you are afraid of failure and how it makes you look,
…feel like a fraud,
…avoid speaking up because of what others might think,
… feel alone in a crowd of so-called friends because no one knows YOU

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